I’ve been updating a lot in my business lately; my studio moved locations, my website got a facelift, and I added several new services to better support your experience on & off the table – I promise I’ll do a full recap soon. Thank you again for all of your support.
With these new updates I spent weeks thumbing through old content to make sure it’s relevant to the evolution of my practice. I forgot about some of the articles I’ve written in the past. I used to write monthly blogs alongside Monthly Musings and absolutely love pouring my heart out; I intend to do more of that next year as I settle into my new space.
Click here to check some of them out.
One article in particular still rings true for me today, titled: “It’s okay to not have it all together.” I wrote it back in Aug of 2020, right in the thick of it. As I was revisiting my words, I realized that I still don’t have it all together! This may be hard on my ego, but it’s true. The truth is, it’s not about having it all together – it’s about taking the time we need to digest what’s happening inside and around us. By “digesting” I don’t just mean intellectually processing, I mean adjusting to change down to the bones of our bodies.
With big change comes big responsibility – to listen.
There’s still a quality in the air – even after all we’ve collectively been through – to rush forward, to adjust, to adapt. Many behave as if they’re ready to embrace “back to normal” with no hesitations. This might be the case for some, but for many of us, we are just starting to see clearly again. And there’s a big step to take before we can move forward; a step that’s easily forgotten.
I see this step get skipped all the time – the process of embodied unlearning. I wish I had a short and sweet definition for you, but this process has so many layers that you can move through. It’s about creating space; completing cycles; uncovering your true emotions; regulating; having life move through you; and peeling back the layers of old conditioning/belief systems/everything else that no longer serves us, in order to make room for what’s to come. It’s letting the body give input to how change needs to happen, and it allows the body to participate fully in the integration or adjustment process.
This step happens after we wake up and decide to change, but before change begins to be visible. And because the body is helping digest, it takes the time it takes – we can’t rush or force acceptance to happen.
This in-between time can sometimes feel heavy or confusing to navigate, in part because we don’t expect it. The myth (or lie you’ve been told) has us digesting everything at once, and doesn’t mention how intense this step can feel. Sometimes heavy emotions come up that feel debilitating – so much so that we worry it’ll always feel this strong, or that we won’t be able to handle it.
Trust me on this – you can get through it. Healing is not a linear experience. We can take the time to come home to ourselves, unravel what’s in front of us, and involve our whole selves in working with what there is to do.
There’s so much opportunity in the chaos. I tell clients all the time, when we are on our path – whether it’s healing or processing – taking time to come home to ourselves will start to calm our inner environment; which means our outer environment usually gets stirred up more. It may not seem like a reassuring cycle, but it does give you a chance to notice what’s no longer in alignment with you (in your environment, relationships, beliefs, habits, thoughts, etc). Granted, this is easier said than done.
Things can get messy before they make sense. Adjusting our inner and outer worlds to release what’s no longer serving us gives us space to step into our own integration process, and most of us want to dive in and get the job done. I see you, and I relate! Finally (it seems), we feel like our capacity has re-expanded; we see that change needs to happen; we have the desire again to step into our purpose.
But we can no longer skip the process of embodied unlearning if we want lasting change. Creating this change within and around us is a marathon, not a sprint.
This is your invitation to take time to check-in, to pause and reflect, to take time to be with you. This is exactly why I do the work that I do – so you can do this process work in your life. Having the space to step away from what’s known, isn’t always easy, and you don’t have to do it alone.
